I-5 wrote:River,
Can I ask what happened with her son? I understand if you don't want to share or if it's too OT. It's very sad.
He died of some sort of seizure when he was 32. After talking with some of his friends, they told me that he was messing around with extracting an oil out of marijuana as it supposedly yields a really sustained high, but he did not refine it to remove the butane from it before using it which induced the seizures, or at least that's the theory. It's not a subject my wife likes discussing as she just tells people he died of a seizure. I haven't even told her everything about my conversations with his friends.
He was in and out of trouble all his life. On his 18th birthday, he was arrested as the driver in a drive-by shooting....which sounds really bad, but they were just shooting vacant parked cars with a .22, but they threw the book at all of them and assessed a heavy restitution that he could never pay off, especially after one of his buddies got thrown in the slam for negligent homicide and he had pay his restitution as well. He was always getting arrested for driving w/o a license, a DUI, petty larceny, domestic violence, that sort of stuff. I used to say that he wasn't a bad ass, just a perpetual phuck up. He had stayed out of trouble for several years and had enrolled in some vocational classes at a CC and was getting really good grades when he died. He was my wife's only child.
Thanks for asking, I-5