kalibane wrote:I'm not going to be too hard on the victim in this case. We don't know her background (or at least I don't) people who come from abusive homes usually find way to repeat the cycle of trauma. The same way girls with absentee fathers tend to seek out father figures in their romantic life and women who were sexually abused when they were young are often attracted most to men who are of very low moral character. If she comes from a background like that and has never gone through the therapeutic process I can completely see why she "stood by her man".
Let's not speculate about the backgrounds of people we don't know. Rather, let's frame the issue according to the backgrounds of people/families that we do know. Our own families.
Suppose that was your daughter that took such a brutal beating, and she later came up to you and told you that she still wanted to marry him, have his children, etc? What would your thoughts be? Would you turn handsprings, give her a high five, and offer to pay for the wedding? Hell, no! I'd be shocked, aghast, fearful. It would be my worst nightmare come true.
I don't know about you, but what I would say to my daughter...and I have a daughter that is probably very close to the same age as the victim...would be to ask her if she nuts, out of her mind, or what. I would say or do anything in my power short of physically restraining her to keep her from marrying that scum bag. I would refuse to give my consent, refuse to pay for the wedding, I'd do anything I could to protect my little girl from what I perceive as a genuine threat to her life.
Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me. Now that she knows how violent and explosive he is and how little respect he has for her specifically and women in general, she is a fool for going back with him.